Most of us – if not all of us – at some point have felt depressed. Perhaps you’re feeling depressed right now. Feeling depressed can happen in the moment, and can be short term or long term. Either way, feeling depressed can be debilitating. When I am depressed, I find it hard to not assume the worse and to not give up.
There are times when I don’t even know I am depressed, and other times I feel knowing it makes me feel more depressed. There are even times we don’t know why we are feeling depressed but just do. The feeling is a bit like Alice in Wonderland falling down a rabbit hole but instead of some fantasy world on the other end, there is nothing. Nothing but an endless hole of forever darkness. You know you’re going down it but sometimes instead of stopping your drop, you keep falling deeper. Does this sound familiar?
Feeling depressed is exhausting, and the exhaustion affects us emotionally, mentally and physically. When I am feeling depressed about a difficult period in my life I walk around with a sort of heaviness. I’m not quite sure whether the heaviness is due to a lack of energy, whether it’s in my head or whether the heaviness is in my heart. All I know is that even just breathing feels like an effort. Can you relate?
Is feeling sorry for oneself bad? I know many people who would say yes – you’re weak – be positive – don’t be a victim! I think feeling sorry for oneself in the moment is allowed. I think it can be part of working through whatever has made you feel the way you do and can help you reach a point that enables you to carry on. This could include re-evaluating and thinking about where you are at, what you want, what you can do and whether you need to find a different path for yourself.
It is cliché, but all the difficulties we experience in life really do have the power to make us stronger individuals. However, we need to be able to identify what we’re feeling, how we’re going to deal with it, and be open to learning from our challenges. I don’t believe life is easy for anyone, no matter who you are or what you have. We all just experience different challenges in life, but we often have the same feelings in terms of how we are affected by our challenges. Some of us are not as strong as others, some of us need time to adjust, some of us need help to work through whatever is making us feel depressed, but through it all, we need to remember that it’s okay to feel whatever it is we’re feeling. We must always ensure though that we believe in ourselves and our ability to work through even the toughest of situations. After all, feeling weak and helpless emotionally also helps us grow as individuals.
I believe in Karma, and I believe that what is meant to be, will be. Often what is required is patience with ourselves and others, perseverance to carry on, and more effort because sometimes things take and last longer than we would like.
“You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn’t mean you’re defective, it just means you’re human.” – David Mitchell
Until next time…
Yours in Adapting & Being