Faith is a term that means different things to different people. Faith is probably most commonly thought of from a religious perspective – believing and trusting in a particular system of religious belief. Then there is keeping the faith (having trust in the fact) -or in the dark times trying to- that things will work out. Whether this is related to a break-up, terminal illness, death, losing your job, finding a new job, your rent or mortgage or for some, simply where your next meal will come from. It is keeping the faith in the darkest of times that I want to focus on.
“Be grateful for the good times and keep the faith during the bad times. Stay positive when life gives you every reason to be negative.” – Unknown
Keeping the faith in tough times is very hard. Especially, when it’s something you keep trying to make work or you keep pushing to make a reality, with little progress or result. Slowly, in more moments than you would like, your belief that things will work out slips just a little further away. Hope fades a bit in every unsuccessful stab you take at making things work out. Your loved ones encourage you to keep pushing and you know you have to and do. But, it just feels like the universe is against making things happen for you. As it is, change isn’t always easy. It takes adjusting to. So the added struggles mess with our emotions and are mentally and physically draining. The worry can be debilitating!
So how do we keep our mindset positive, manage our anxiety, stop panicking and have faith that everything WILL work out? Perhaps we need to let go of the idea that things must go a certain way, at a certain time. I know I have said it in many posts before, but sometimes all we can control is our reaction to the situations we find ourselves in. We do need to keep going, not give up, and not be overcome by our challenges. We need to not assume the worst before anything has even happened, all because things are not going the way we planned.
To have and keep the faith that things will work out requires a strong emotional and mental effort to stay positive and believe. We need to be more aware and more mindful for when we drift towards that negative mind-set where all our darkest fears live so that we are able to stop ourselves from slipping further away from having and keeping our faith.
Pessimistic and optimistic are very different ways of being. My husband often tells me I’m too pessimistic. I almost always respond with ‘I am a realist’. However, having faith that things will work out as they are meant to be is perhaps something I should become a lot more optimistic about. All the current unforeseen, unexpected, unknowns that I feel are challenging me right now, I should redirect to a more positive, more solution-orientated way of thinking. Perhaps more of an open mind might even realise that these challenges are just speedbumps on a journey to an even better destination.
So if you going through a tough period where you find it hard to keep the faith that things will work out, continue to shift your focus to what you have in life that is positive and priceless. Then use that mindset to help you embrace your circumstances, think about what you can control, work through your feelings and whatever you might not yet have considered or done. And despite your challenges continue walking towards things working out in its own time.
“Be patient. Sometimes you have to go through the worst to get the best. Give time some time” – Karen Salmansohn
Until next time…
Yours in Adapting & Being