How often have you found yourself at a crossroads? Where you face decisions you need to make that you are either unsure of or that you look for excuses to run away from and simply feel it is easier to just give up? Yes, there are times when it is best to just let something go. But what about all those things that we have committed to, and that have brought us and others some value? Those things we do that have helped or contributed to something positive. I had this moment yesterday and what helped me was to speak about it, dig deep for the why and make a list of pros and cons.
I have been blogging since January this year. I have posted 107 times and have had 3402 views from 963 visitors. In the blogging world, this is unimpressive. My new life in the UK in most ways is so much happier, adventurous and meaningful. But there are a few “perks” I was accustomed to in South Africa that made the rush of daily life a bit easier. I don’t have those now. Time is even more precious to me now than it was before. And when you’re experiencing a period of intense time pressures, your exhaustion tends to make you think of what you can give up. This is where I was in the last 24 hours. I realised that for the last number of days I posted no “Thought of the Day”, which I try to do during a working week. The last few weeks my blog post pieces felt like a massive chore to even just think up. Last week, as an example, the idea came from my husband as I was stressing about what to write. I then proceeded to write the post on a train on my cell phone. So yesterday I felt strongly that today’s post would be my last and would be a goodbye.
I sat down with my husband and told him. I used the excuse of re-evaluating priorities, which I am mostly good at when it’s not coming from a space of giving up for the wrong reasons. While speaking to my husband (who was adamant that I shouldn’t give it up), I was moved to a space where I started thinking about the why. Why I started it, why I kept going and why I in August added the “Thoughts of the Day”. I started really thinking of the value writing posts brought to me personally, how more mindful it made me, how more appreciative I feel about my life and the value of it and the people I love in it. How writing posts often inspired and motivated me for a day when I was feeling a bit out of sorts. How some of my posts were inspired by others around me and what they were experiencing and feeling and were somehow a tribute to them and a small gesture from me to keep them going. How from my current 148 subscribers something I write about resonates with them or somehow keeps them interested in what I have to share.
So in the end, this is not my final post. It is not a goodbye and instead I will be more mindful of my own advice to not stress about things I can’t get to if other priorities are more pressing. So if I miss a few days of “Thoughts of the Day”, it is okay. If I am late with sending my weekly blog post piece because it only lands in your inbox a day after Thursday, it is okay.
I have also realised that everything in life is ultimately about adapting and being. So going forward I plan to write about anything and everything and sometimes try something new as a post. I hope that you will embrace the changing content that you will see from Adapt & Be from time to time.
So when you’re at a crossroads and feeling you want to give up, do some of what I did. Speak out, dig deep within yourself and allow your thinking and your feelings to guide you. Take every moment, every situation and circumstance as it comes. Often many things are just temporary. So don’t allow temporary setbacks to make you give up on what brings value.
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Yours in Adapting & Being