The world we live in feels to me as if it changes daily. We are surrounded by innovation in a digitally connected world that requires new skills and knowledge in order to be successful. “It is change, continuing change, inevitable change, that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be… This, in turn, means that our statesmen, our businessmen, our everyman must take on a science fictional way of thinking.” – Isaac Asimov Advertisements
“We are all unique and different from each other. It is in our differences that beauty lives.” Unknown Do you often judge yourself on certain aspects or features about yourself? Do you question why you easily break into tears when your emotions are heightened by sadness, anger or conflict? Do you often indulge in negative self-talk, or body shame yourself? Do you do this to others or have you had it directed toward you? I am certain we have all been guilty of one or a few of these, and most definitely at some point in our lives, been on the receiving end of it. It really is okay to be different. In fact, it’s fantastic! We are different in so many ways, but I would like to focus on the way we look (appearance), think and feel.
To understand yourself, you need to get to know yourself – and take the time to do so. Knowing yourself is the only way you can be yourself. So how do you know whether you know yourself, or how well you know or understand yourself? Answer this question:
I personally feel one cannot live life without taking ownership and being accountable. My view is also that this does not apply to us adults only, but also to our children as early as they are able to start understanding that actions have consequences. I believe that it is our responsibility to explain the ‘why’ and demonstrate how we display ownership and act accountably as often as is possible. So when our children are adults, they will not experience difficulty in taking ownership and acting accountably. This post is not aimed at just children either, but rather what I feel ownership and accountability is, and how we can recognise and develop it for and within ourselves, and in doing so, impact others.
Overly emotional, angry, frustrated, unexplained outbursts, unsettled sleeping or sleepless nights and bedwetting. Any of this sound familiar? Do you experience one or more of these with your child? Perhaps often, if you have a baby or a toddler – not if you have a junior school going child of 9 years or older. This is what my husband and I have experienced with our daughter over the past two years. We had no idea that it was related to performance anxiety at school, or that she had a learning difficulty. It had been for a while that our daughter was struggling with Maths at school. Despite English being her first language, she was starting to battle with this as well. Despite her overall adequate understanding of number concepts and operations, she struggled to always apply her knowledge to word sums. And, she was spelling most words phonetically, and therefore struggled to spell words with silent letters (guess), double letters (bottle, press) and other sight words not spelt phonetically (watch, careless, charge).
Stress can be defined in many ways. Ultimately, it is a state of mental or emotional strain resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances. At some point, most of us – if not all – have experienced stress – whether it be long term, short term or at the moment.
My mom was a single mom from the very first day I was born. My dad was not a constant in our lives, and would drift in and out of our lives every few years. I lived with my mom and grandparents until the age of 7, when my grandfather died. After this, it was my mom, grandmother and I until I left home at 23 years old. During this time, my mother’s younger brother also stayed with us for a short period. My mom worked full time, so I spent most of my days with my grandmother. In many ways I viewed my grandmother as my mom. Many people actually thought she was my mom.
I read an article once that said: “We shouldn’t be rating ourselves, we should just be ourselves.” I value that I love deeply, and unconditionally. I value who I am – an individual who has been on a journey to become authentically me, and who values integrity above all else. In life, I value waking up every day, and being able to share more of life with my husband and children.
There are so many differences in the world, but despite our continued evolution as a society, there are still many who are stuck in the past, and are narrow-minded when it comes to our different beliefs, skin colour, physical appearance, sexual orientation, values and beliefs. This causes unhealthy tension, increased conflict and leave certain individuals or groups feeling either superior or inferior to others. In life, we are often faced with making tough choices and decisions. Some of which, others may not agree with. This happens both at home and in the workplace, all for a variety of different reasons. I am going to share a personal choice I made which led to me being estranged from my family.
I have a love-hate relationship with digital technology, the internet and social media platforms. It is both productive, in that it has made doing things easier and faster, but also destructive, in that it has made us humans less likely to think for ourselves and be less present in what is happening around us, including our interactions. I have categorized my thoughts and feelings under ‘The Good’, ‘The Bad’, and then ‘Adapt’, so that whilst we embrace the good, we become more mindful and in control of the bad.