The last few days have been more manic than usual in both my personal and professional life. Due to work commitments over the past week, I found myself having to travel around five hours a day to get to and from where I needed to be in order to get my job done. This is an exception for me and not a usual thing. Early mornings and late nights impacted my responsibilities as a mother more than anything. Whilst this week was unusual for me, I do also know it’s the daily life of many. The result is getting behind on everything, especially laundry, which is okay until your son goes “mom it’s Friday and I need a clean shirt”. Your children have been less than productive with homework and studying for tests, but then again their overall responsibility has taken a brief descent due to mom not being around. Routines are completely out the window because dad is abroad. However, the purpose of this post is not to whine about me and my family’s disruptive week with too little hours in the day for me personally, but to focus on the critical importance of teamwork. Advertisements
Patience is a word so easily used but so often it’s not practiced. I would like to think I am a very patient person, but I can think of so many examples that demonstrates otherwise. I believe it natural to be impatient at times. We are emotional beings and when we feel frustrated, we can be impatient. But it is not helpful when impatience becomes something of a permanent feature.
A few days ago I came across an article about a workaholic dad who had lost his 8 year old son. I am always deeply affected by sadness experienced in other’s lives and especially when it includes children. Many of us working parents are stretched for time. We need to keep our busy households going and meet all our work commitments and goals. And as much as we talk about balance, the one thing that often seems most neglected is the quality of our time with our loved ones and how present we are in our interactions with them.
To be authentic is to be genuine, original and real. I have had many interactions where people feel authenticity to self is not an option, given the pressure to be a certain way in our ever-changing world. I, however, believe it more critical than ever before to be your authentic self because of the world we live in. We should adapt to our experiences, situations, and circumstances. The key is to know and decide for ourselves who we are and what we want to be. Demonstrating authentic behaviour is not just speaking about values but acting our values.
Are you the kind of person who always speaks from your heart? Or, are you the kind of person that prefers to keep your honest thoughts and feelings to yourself? Think about a time when you spoke truthfully about something affecting you at home. Then, think about a time when you needed to speak truthfully about what you thought about someone else’s work ethic at the office but you didn’t. What was the outcome?
I am a mother to two boys and a girl. My children are all approximately two years apart in age and they are my life. They have shaped a part of the woman I am today. I had read so much parenting material to prepare for motherhood. Whilst there was a lot of helpful information, there are certain things I still wish I would have known to have prepared for. I know that one can never really be fully prepared for being a parent, but what I am referring to didn’t even cross my mind.
The world we live in feels to me as if it changes daily. We are surrounded by innovation in a digitally connected world that requires new skills and knowledge in order to be successful. “It is change, continuing change, inevitable change, that is the dominant factor in society today. No sensible decision can be made any longer without taking into account not only the world as it is, but the world as it will be… This, in turn, means that our statesmen, our businessmen, our everyman must take on a science fictional way of thinking.” – Isaac Asimov
I personally feel one cannot live life without taking ownership and being accountable. My view is also that this does not apply to us adults only, but also to our children as early as they are able to start understanding that actions have consequences. I believe that it is our responsibility to explain the ‘why’ and demonstrate how we display ownership and act accountably as often as is possible. So when our children are adults, they will not experience difficulty in taking ownership and acting accountably. This post is not aimed at just children either, but rather what I feel ownership and accountability is, and how we can recognise and develop it for and within ourselves, and in doing so, impact others.
How often do you find yourself saying you need more hours in the day to get through everything expected of you as a mom? How often do you long for the day to end, so you can just collapse on your bed? How often do you question whether you’re a good mom? How often do you feel you’re just not coping? You look at all the other moms at your child’s school who seem to have it all together, so you push yourself further because you think there is some sort of standard to keep up with. I’m sure many moms (and dads) can relate to my list of what makes me question my mom abilities when it comes to school duties.
Overly emotional, angry, frustrated, unexplained outbursts, unsettled sleeping or sleepless nights and bedwetting. Any of this sound familiar? Do you experience one or more of these with your child? Perhaps often, if you have a baby or a toddler – not if you have a junior school going child of 9 years or older. This is what my husband and I have experienced with our daughter over the past two years. We had no idea that it was related to performance anxiety at school, or that she had a learning difficulty. It had been for a while that our daughter was struggling with Maths at school. Despite English being her first language, she was starting to battle with this as well. Despite her overall adequate understanding of number concepts and operations, she struggled to always apply her knowledge to word sums. And, she was spelling most words phonetically, and therefore struggled to spell words with silent letters (guess), double letters (bottle, press) and other sight words not spelt phonetically (watch, careless, charge).